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A Simple Way to Self Discovery

This is how I do it…

Before I actually start I ask myself what I am feeling.
Then I try to give a general answer like I am feeling good or bad.
Then I ask myself why I feel that way.

I recall all the things that have happened in my life and I push myself to be brutally honest about what I feel about them – The more honest you are about it, you will feel that much better!

I found this technique really effective in building up my emotional intelligence and after connecting with my feelings for a couple of minutes I feel so much better. I believe it was because when there was less resistance in me to deal with all of my negativity and being able to convert to positive.

Why not try it? Better to fail toward success than living in failure!


Multipotentialites are ones with on “one true calling” – they have many interests and creative pursuits.
They are passionate about many things, but society and culture’s mindset for multipotentialites are to pursue one thing at a time. Due to that, they grew-up with a fixed mindset to specialize in a single field.

But can one be an entrepreneur, a photographer, a coach, and an artist at the same time?
Of course! When one is a multipotentialites, one is equally capable in different fields. However, their expertise will likely not equal to a specialist’s, but due to the multiple areas they are passionate in, their out-of-the-box thinking capability can supersede that setback.

Some famous multipotentialites include Isaac Newton, René Descartes, Leonardo da Vinci, and many more. Consider da Vinci – he was an inventor, an artist, and a writer. Thanks to him and many other multipotentialites, we are able live in a world majorly contributed by them.

Our world is filled with potential multipotentialites. So, we should encourage them to excel, not suppress them to belong to a single area throughout.


Many multipotentialites start off by having many different ideas in mind. The passion to execute the ideas however fade away when they seem impossible to execute, without even attempting to execute due to the fear.

To overcome that problem, first, believe that the dots will connect. Believe that your passion and skills your many interests will bring you to a great end because you know you can connect them creatively to reach the outcome you desire.

After that, execute the believe. Know that there is likely to be failures but with each failure, stick to your belief that you can and will; then keep progressing forward. You will reach the end. Also know, if da Vinci and the rest can, you can too.


First, know and belief that you can and will.

Second, keep progressing forward and know that failure is the lesson to push to the next.

Finally, as you progress, you will reach the end that you want and love.


Photophobia Fear of light
Hydrophobia Fear of water
Claustrophobia Fear of confined spaces
Agorophobia Fear of open spaces
Arachnaphobia Fear of spiders
Telefonophobia Fear of telephones
Bibliophobia Fear of books
Ailurophobia Fear of cats
Acrophobia Fear of heights
Noctiphobia Fear of night
Categelophobia Fear of ridicule
Opthalmophobia Fear of being stared at
Xenophobia Fear of foreigners
Triskaidekaphobia Fear of the number 13
Ergophobia Fear of work
Linonophobia Fear of string

Bullying in healthcare inevitably leads to a dysfunctional work environment, medical errors and preventable adverse outcomes, with patients suffering ultimately.

Bullying occur in healthcare organizations globally. In an analysis of 24 countries, prevalence rates of 11-18% were reported.
THE report on bullying of junior doctors last month embarrassed, at best, and at worst, shamed the medical profession. The factors associated with bullying were “younger age group, shorter length of service, shifting work, non-managerial position and designation as a doctor”


Defining Bullying

There are various terms used, often indiscriminately, but they are different.
Bullying has to be distinguished from admonishments when there are mistakes or errors in healthcare delivery that affect patient safety and quality of care.
The World Medical Association states: “Bullying is behavior that is repeated over time or occurs as part of a pattern of behavior, rather than a single episode.
“‘Unreasonable behavior is what a reasonable person in the same circumstances would see as unreasonable.
“It includes behavior that intimidates, offends, victimizes, threatens, degrades, insults or humiliates. Bullying can take psychological, social and physical forms.
“Harassment is unwanted, unwelcome or uninvited behavior that makes a person feel humiliated, intimidated or offended.
“Harassment can be related to a person’s ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, disability or other factors such as whether a person has made a complaint.”

Bullying may be by an individual against an individual or groups of individuals.
It may be obvious or insidious, and takes one or more of these forms: verbal abuse; threatening, intimidating or humiliating behaviors (including non-verbal); and work interference, which prevents work from getting done (Workplace Bullying Institute).

Consequences of Bullying

The links between bullying, patient safety and quality of care are universally recognized. Effective teamwork and communication, and a collaborative work environment are critical to quality healthcare.
Bullying is associated with disruptive and corrosive behaviors that inevitably lead to a dysfunctional work environment, medical errors and preventable adverse outcomes with patients suffering ultimately.
According to the Royal College of Surgeons of Edinburgh, healthcare professionals have attributed disruptive behavior in the perioperative area alone to 67% of adverse events, 71% of medical errors and 27% of perioperative deaths.
The effect of bullying on a healthcare facility include lower morale and productivity, increased absenteeism, rapid and increased staff turnover, which compromises patient safety, and a negative impact on the facility’s reputation.
It also exposes the facility to litigation by its staff and actions in negligence by patients.
The estimated annual cost of bullying to organizations in the United Kingdom was 4:13.75bi1 (RM71.86bil).
Employers have a legal duty to ensure the health, safety and welfare of their employees. The underlying principle has to be zero tolerance for bullying.


According to Clare Marx, past president of the Royal College of Surgeons of England, the bullying culture in the UK National Health Service starts at the top.
She said: “I think attitudes and behaviours in healthcare come from the top. We all hear about bullying cultures. Fm ashamed to say that I don’t know a chief executive who isn’t bullied from the top. and I think that is passed down.” (BMJ 2017)

Is the local situation different, and if so, how different? Unfortunately, the deafening silence leads to negative perceptions. A compassionate leadership is critical for building a culture of improvement and empowering staff to raise concerns.


The statement by Martin Bromiley, Chair of the Clinical Human Factors Group, is relevant for leaders at all levels:
“Think about this: Am I creating the right conditions for people to speak up to me? Am I reacting to people in a way that tells them I want to hear what they have to say?’ Remember it’s what’s right – not who’s right – that counts.
“By all means be decisive – be a leader, push and challenge those around you – but make sure you listen and acknowledge people. and NEVER frighten or devalue those around you.
“You’ll have already lost the respect of those same people. and your situational ‘awareness will never be complete again.”


That there is a trust deficit between junior doctors, and their seniors and employer, is reflected in the media disclosure of bullying.
An independent, accountable and fair system is required to address bullying of junior doctors, nurses and other healthcare professions.
There are good global practices that have reduced the prevalence of bullying in health-care organizations.
It is useful to learn from the UK General Medical Council who, following a review of bullying and undermining in medical education and training in 2014, reported that the key factors contributing to positive work-place behavior and a supportive training environment were valuing doctors in training; departmental cohesion and leadership: workload and stress for doctors in training and consultants; communication with doc-tors in training and recognizing undermining and bullying; and the need for effective senior leadership.

After 60, what remains?

I HAVE been 60 for two years now, and feel blessed to still be around. Given the madness and mayhem of modern day living, there are many who do not make it to 60.

My own mother died of a heart attack when she was 54. I lost a close friend to cancer and she was only 51. A favorite uncle died at age 50 of cancer. Sooner or later we will all meet this eventuality that underscores the brevity of life.

And so it was that when I was 57, I felt a compulsion to write my own epitaph:

“Here lies Mary, sweet and still,
“Dreams and wishes all fulfilled;
“Just like her to go in style,
“Never wasted a moment’s while;
“She lived just as she believed,
“Joy and mirth in each day lived.”

Simplicity being the theme in my life, I crafted my epitaph to the tune of Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star. With the help of technology, the tune will be played softly when someone stands within 2m of my tombstone. So as the visitor reads the poem, there is automatic music accompaniment!
I do not feel the least morbid about writing this, as an examined death is as important as an examined life. It is good to have an irreverent sense of humor towards death; to have the courage to look it in the eye, and recognize it as an intrinsic part of human experience.

Ironically, it is when we talk about death, therein lies the richness of life. It is when we realize the fragility and vulnerability of being human, particularly in the 21st century, that we appreciate life more.

My husband has managed his colorectal cancer most brilliantly just by having faith and hope that things will get better. For one who has overcome the dual onslaughts of radiotherapy and chemotherapy, he looks cheerful and positive.

Cancer is debilitating, financially draining, energy-sapping and has the force to shake up one’s routine and plans. That’s what it can do. But what it cannot do is weaken one’s will to live or remove the joy of living. With his cancer now stable and with a promising prognosis, he has resolved to cherish every moment of family time together.

No one tells you that after 60, dizzying changes and challenges will come unbidden. Words that creep into the senior’s conversation include macular degeneration, cataracts, cholesterol, diabetes, colonoscopy and angiogram. Acronyms such as MRI, HDL, AMD and BMI become common. It has also become normal practice to Google for further information on whatever discomfort or disease one is battling. In other words, we become more aware of our own mortality as the years add up.

However healthy you are at mid-life, there comes a time when you realize that age has caught up with you. You catch sight of a time-ravaged face in the fitting-room mirror and you notice other unforgiving signs-of-the-times as well, in that unforgiving three-panelled mirror. It is an age epiphany moment when you find it hard to recall names, and words become elusive in a conversation.

I do not contrive to reach the age of 62 without acknowledging that Higher Hands are leading me. My youth is gone and I cannot keep up with the relentless march of time. And now, I am more than halfway through my time on Earth, and each birthday marks a new bonus of time. No maternal dean’s list for me; no monument marks my existence; and definitely there are no roads named after me.

There is no blueprint on how one should live one’s life, simply because life itself is capricious, ever-changing and unyielding. In my own simplistic way, I think that loving someone every day, getting some love in return, fostering honest friendships, being generous and kind; will get you through the day.

With six decades of life behind me, I believe that having personal integrity and staying true to oneself, pulling off one’s mask, is the key to living a meaningful life. So much of who I am, my actions, my decisions, and my choices, are guided by this touchstone in life. I feel that there are moments in time when people need to be open and bare their soul. This appears to be one.